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11月25日 爱情之脆弱 现代爱情－－－－－－－－－脆弱
和我妈妈打电话聊天，听说家里面的大姑又离婚了，因为我大姑父在外面整天的
不回家，十天半个月的也不回一次家，你说一个女人在家里守着两个孩子还过个
什么意思呢？自己的另一半都没有回来，只剩下一半在家了，可怎么生活呀！
大姑父在外边有了个小密，其实这样的事情太多了在当今的社会，似乎男人到了
３５－－４５岁之间就是主要干这个事情的时候似的，因为他们除了可以干这个
以外就不可以干什么了一样呢！
女人到了３５－－４５岁也是一个最危险的时期了，因为她人容颜已不是当年
还有就是，身体的发福和自身的情况等等都不在是以前的那个样子了．对于男
人而言家里什么都有就是没有了激情和吸引力了！
家里怎么可以永远吸引男人呢？
日子可以怎么样才能保鲜呢？
怎么样可以让生活更有激情？
女人怎么样才可以在自己的老公面前永远保持魅力呢？
真的是需要智慧，智慧是从哪里来的？
在最开始的时候就要谨慎的选择自己的配偶，理性的相处，然后才可以发展！
生活的智慧却是我们要积累和学习，所以女人要一生都要不段的进步和学习
绝对不可以就说自己结婚了就可以不努力不学习了，我已经很好了
这是大错特错，因为家花没有也花香，不是吗？但是，一般的人不求长短
孩子永远是自己的好，老婆永远是别人的好不是吗？
现在，男人的花心和善变就考验女人必须是有智慧的，没有智慧的生活
早晚就要出现问题！
真的是可怜！可怜的孩子，可怜的女人，可怜！！！！
感情真的很脆弱也很经不起考验！
任你已经千疮百孔，任你已经心力觉瘁，但是你还是要承受着，忍受
着坚强的活下去．
所以在最开始的时候，女人必须就要不能把男人和感情当成自己的全部
和一生的寄托，如果年龄小的时候你没有办法控制，但当你随着年龄
增长，可以控制自己的情绪的时候，你就有控制好自己不要在危险的年龄
以前还不采取任何的有效措施让自己的伤害程度降到最低！ 10月23日 无为是真正的有为我小的时候才上初中就听说谁谁家的孩子出国留学去了，我就从心底里暗暗的羡慕别人可以出国去留学，那个时候再我幼小的心灵是一件
多么了不起的事情能出国去留学，我就想如果我可以出国去留学那可多好呀，我就给我自己设立下了目标，无论路多么难走，多么苦，我
都必须坚持好好的学习，一定也要出国去留学。出国留学就是我奋斗与学习的一个梦一样支持着我奋进，让我进取。在我人生最低谷的时
候我都不知道我可以抓住什么东西来当作我的救命稻草一样激励着我可以找到我活下去的理由和动力，于是我特别的努力学习，振奋起来
我的精神，让我可以用一颗饱满的心来迎接每一天。
但是人太要怎么样而一定要怎么样的时候就特别的容易走入一个误区，让人很盲目，思想很不理智，容易犯错或是犯傻什么的。 我就曾经因为出国犯了很多的错误，很不理智的选择学校，我根本就没有想清楚我为什么药出国，那么出国之后毕业了我要做什么，我应该怎么设计我路，我一切都不知道，我就是很想当学生，我还没有上够学呢！就是这样的感觉，我的心态一直都是一个学生的心态，就不是一个很成熟的心态，今天我变了，我发现我变了，变的和以前不太一样了，因为我发现我不想上学了，虽然也渴望学习但是，不想再在学校里耗着了，耗尽我的青春与健康，我突然想明白我想做什么了，我喜欢做什么，什么是适合我来做的事情，我突然特别的清醒认识到这一点，是不是我长大了呢？但我的学业还没有完成，研究生还没有毕业呢！我的出国梦还没有结束呢，我梦寐以求的出国留学之路才走了一半那我是要继续读下去呢？还是，放弃学业来做我喜欢的事情呢！我有些犹豫可是我的心里又已经给出了自己的答案，我就是一个要犹豫很久才能做出答案来的人，我从小就有些不自信在我的性格当中存在着，要犹豫犹豫到我没有时间了最后一秒了，好我做出答案了可能我也就不在后悔什么了。我还是一个，就是我不喜欢我就可以把它给别人，无论是多么贵重的东西只要是我不喜欢你喜欢的，好我都可以给你，但是只要是我喜欢的，我甚至都不希望你多看一眼，我都怕它被你给看坏了呢！呵呵！我就是一个这样的家伙，但是我很忠于我的真实感受，我喜欢就是喜欢，不喜欢就是不喜欢在我的脸上都可以显现出来的那一种绝不是，可以阳奉阴违的那一种类型，有的时候我很讨厌我的这种个性，有的时候又很喜欢，感觉自己不是那么的虚伪，一就是一，绝对不会让别人感觉是二呢！我的一个朋友她是学心里学的，她告诉这都是因为星座的原因，天地万物都是由磁场的，这些都是早已经注定的了，最近我就在想中医和易经里说的东西，谁最准到底谁最准呢？后来我自己的感悟我发现大体的东西有些是不能改的，但是细节和决定的东西还是由我自己来做主的不是吗？我就在问这我自己，是不是在每一次做决定的时候不要太草率了呢？是不是我可以更细一些呢做任何事情的时候都不要太大意了呢？还是我真就没有办法改了呢？其实也不是的我一件一件的来改因为，如果我太放任自己的性情了估计也不是一件太好的事情。经过修理的花园看上去是会美丽的给人的感觉也是不一样的，我现在就把我自己看成是一个花园吧，因为人们总是爱把女生比喻成花瓶，但那是针对漂亮的女生，我算不上是漂亮的女生，所以我还是把我自己比成花园比较好一点，经常收市梳理一下自己的性情，多给自己的性格里培养一些是美德方面的知识总之就是大家共性认为是好的那就是美丽的花一朵，呵呵，要多种一些花，然后，也要有草坪，那什么是草坪呢！？就是日常自己的所做所为，包括说话，这样日积月累，草就会永远是绿色的。我感觉这个来形容我自己或是说，不太漂亮也不太丑的女孩子还是比较好一点的，就是花瓶感觉太单调了，硬硬的在那里，我记得，花瓶说过，我有我自身的作用我是起装饰与美化和陪衬做用的，也不是所有的人都可以做得了花瓶不是吗？呵呵~ 12月9日 *There Days to See* (23)
All of us have read a thrilling stories in which the hero only had a limited and specified time to
live.Sometimes as long as a years;sometimes as short as twenty-foure houres.But always we were
interested in discovering just how the doomed man chose to speng his last days of his last hours.
I speak ,of course ,of free man who have a choice.not condemnad criminals whoes sphere of activities
is strictly delimited.
Such stories set us thinking,wordering what we should do under the similar circumstances.What
events ,what experiences,what associations should we crowd into those last hours as mortal being?
what happiness should we find in reviewing the past,what regrets?
Sometimes i have thought it would be an excellent rule to live each day as if we should die
tomorrow Such an attitude would emphasize sharply the values of life.We should live each day
gentleness vigor and a keenness of appreciation which are often lost when time stretches before
us in the constant panorama of more days and mounths and years to go.There are those ,of
course.who would adopt the Epicurean motto fo "Eat,drink ,and be merry."But most people would
be chastened by the certainty of impending death.
In stories the doomed hero is usually saved at the last minute by smoe stroke of future ,but
almost always of values is change.He becomes more apprecative of the meaning of life and its
permanent spiritual values.It has often been noted that those who live ,or have lived,in the shadow
of death bring a mellow sweetness to everything they do.
Most of us, however ,take a life for granted,we know that one day we must die,but usually we
picture that day as far in the future. When we are in buyoant health,death is all but unimaginable.
We seldom think of it.The days strech out in an endless vista.So we go about our petty tasks ,hardly
aware of our listless attitude toward life.
The same lethargy ,i am afried ,characterizes the use of all our faculties and sense .Only the deaf
appreciate hearing,Only the blind realize the manifold blessing the lie in sight.Particulary does this
observation apply to those who have lost sight and hearing in adoult life.But those who have suffered
impairment of sight or hearing seldom make the fullset use of these blessing facuties.Their eyes and
ears take in all sights and sounds hazily.without concentration and with little appreciation.It is the
same old stories of not being greatful for what we have until we lose it.of noting being conscions
of health until we are ill.
I have often thought it would be a blessing if each human being were striken blind and dearf for
a few days at some time during his early adult of life.Darkness would make him appreciative of sight;
silence would teach him the joy of sound.
*Give life of meaning * London bus
London open bus
London underground
London torwer brige
Londen eye
Telephone both Big Ben
The fiancal center of London
Have you thought about you want people
to say about you after you are gone?Do you hear
a vorices "he was a great man" or "she will really
be missde"? What else do you want?
Once of the strangest of life is to engage in
a work that will of last long after death,isn't that
a lot like investing all you money so that futhure
genration can bare interest on it?Perhaps, yet if
you look deep in you own heart ,you'll find something
drive you make a kind of contribution -- somenting
drives human being to find a purpose that lives on after
death.
Do you hope to memorialize you name?Have a
name tha is whispered reverent awe?Do you hope
have your face carved upoun 50ft griant rock?Is't
the answer really smiple?Is the purpose of lifetime
contruibution an ego-driven desire for a mortal
being have an immotal name or it is something
more?
A child alive today will die tomorrow.A baby
that had potencial to be the next Einstein will
die from complication.The cricumstaince of life
are not set in stone.We are not all meat to live life
through the old age .We've grow preceive life as
a full cycle with a certain number of years in between.
If all of thoes years aren't lived out,its tragedy.
A tragedy because a human being potentialc was
never realized.A tragedy because a spark snuffed
out was before it ever become a flame.
By vritue of inhabiting a body we accept those
risks.We expose our motarl flash to the laws the
pyscial enviroment around us. Tarde off isn't so
bad when you think about it.The problem comes
when we construct mortal fantasies of what life
should be like.When life doen't comform our fantasy
we grow upset ,frustrated,or depressed.
We are alive,let us a live.We are have a bility to
exprience ,let us exprience.We are have a bility to learn,
let us learn.The meaning of life can be graspde in a
moment.A moment so brife it often evades our perception.
what meaning stand behind the dramstic unfolding
of life?What single truth can we grasp and hang onto
dear life when all other truths around us seem to
with time out?
Those moments are strung together in a serise
we are call events.Those events are strung together
in a serise we are call life.When size the moment and
bend it accroding to will, a will driven by the spitit
deep inside us,then we have discovered the meaning
of life,a meaning of life shall go on long after we
depart this Earth.
London torwer bridge at night
The old woman still alive Elisbens
Brith mesusm
The World Bank (london) fianical exchange
2006 年春节在（伦敦）chinaton
so beautifull supermaket of chinatang
12月7日 ~~Bron to Win~~ [20]
This is My Favorite
Each huam being is brom as something new,someting
that never existed before.Each is bron with the capacity
to win at life.Each person has a unique way of seeing
hearing touching testing and thinking .Each has his or
her own unique potencials--capabilities and limitations.
Each can be a siginificant thinking aware and creative
-being---a productive person, a winner.
The word "winner" or "loser" have mang meanings
When we refer to a person is a winner .we are do not
mean one who makes someone else lose.To us,a
winner is one who responsive authentically,by being
credible trustworth,responsive, and genuine ,both as
an individual and as a member of a society.
Winners do not dedicate their lives to aconcept
of what they image they should be;they are themselves
and shuch as do not use their energy putting on a
perfromance,maintaining prentence and manipulating
others.They are aware there is a different between
being loving ane acting loving ,between being stupid
and acting stupid,between being knowledgeable and
acting knowledgeable.Winners do not hiden behind a
mask.
Winners are not afrind to do their own thinking
and to use their own knowledge.They can separate
facts from opinions ,and pretand to have all answers
they listen to others,evaluate what they say,but come
to their own conclusion.Although winners can admire
and respect other people,they are not totally defined,
demolished,bound or awed ty them.
Winners are not play "helpless"or play the
blaming game,insted,they assume responsibility
for their own lives,they don't give others a false
authority over them.Winners are their own bosses
and know it.
Winners are timing is right .Winners respond
appropriately to the situation.Their respondes are
ralated to the message sent and preserve the
significance,worth,well-being,and dignity of the people
involved.
Although winners can freel enjoy themselves
they can also posponed enjoyment ,can discipline
themselves in the present to enhance their enjoyment
in the future.Winner are not afriend go to after what
he wants,but they do so in proper ways .winners do
not get their security by controlling others.they do
set themselves up to lose.
A winners care about the world and its people.
A winner is not isolated from the general problems
of society.but so concered compassionate,and
committed improving quality of life.Even in the face
of national and international adversity,a winner's
self- image is not one of apowerless individual.A
winner works to make the world a better place.
Every word is classical,
Every sentence is classical too!
献给你，我的爱人 for you, my lover（come to my deeply heart） 平平淡淡才是真
淡淡相思，淡淡愁；
淡淡相思，无尽头；
淡淡牵挂，上心头；
淡淡人生，漫漫路；
与谁携手，到白头；
作者：静静 7/12/2007 喜欢，坐在窗台前看着外面青青的小草； 喜欢，每天欣赏日出与日落的平和感觉； 喜欢，享受午后的阳关撒便我的全身； 喜欢，坐在那里一杯咖啡一本书品位生活的味道； 喜欢，周末带上小狗去散散步去嬉戏；
我一边走，同时一边在品位着我的人生； 我声怕错过哪个细节是我不知道就发生了的； 突然间看了一下镜子，感觉岁月最终还是不能放过我， 依然在我的眼角边留下了很多的时间跑道；
金钱，在时间的面前就更章显的微不足道了： 多少钱也不能让我停在今天的岁月里而不变； 多少钱也换不回昨天那个18岁的我； 多少钱也换不回我失去的一切一切。 Every day ,writed English,long time
have not wirte chinese ,sometime I
find Something I can with
Engish spesking and wirting
,Aulthough Engling have
hadNot testing like Chinese,
like this little poet if I use
English speaking I cannot
Fund like speak Chinese
feeling ,maybe Chinese is
my first language so,no metter
How I am lean ,and in my
heart Chinese is Chinese and
English is English , I never
cannot Take the aim like
a poem LinYuTang .he is
a famous writer and poem
.i like him very much.
He’s language so beautiful
and deeply.I should touch
he’s heart and reading
he’s bood A .amazing,
how a romatic poem and
a grate writer.we are
come from the Same country ,
Why ,person and person
so different. I sham on myself.
12月6日 *Mirror Mirror --what do i see?* [19]
A loving person living in a love world,
A hostile person living in a hostile world.Every
-one you met is your mirror.
Mirror have a very particular function.They
reflect the image in front them,Just as a physical
mirror servers as the vehicle to reflect ,so do
all of the people in our lives.
When we see something beautiful such as a
flwer gardan ,that garden serves as a reflect .IN
order to see the beauty in front of us,we must be
able to see inside of oursvlves .When we love some
-one,it's a refleation of loving ourselves.we have
often heard things like "i love how i am with that
person,"That simple translates into "I'an bale to
love me when i love that person."Oftentimes,When
we meet someone new,we feel as though we "click"
Sometimes it's as if we know each other long time,
that feeling can come from sharing similarities.
Just as the "mirror" or the other person can be
positive reflect,it is more likely that we'll notice it
when it has a negative connotation.For example,
it's easy to remember times when we may have some
we're not particularly crazy about.We may have
some criticism in our mind about the person.This
is especially true when we get to know someone
with whom we would rather spend less time.
Frequently,when we dislike qualities in other
people,ironically,it's usually the mirror that's
speaking to us.
I began questioning myself further each time
i encounter someone that i didn't particularly like.
Ecah time, i asked myself ,"what is it about that
perpson that i don't like?" And then "Is there
something similar in me?"In every instance,I could
see a piece of that qulities in me,and sometimes
i had to really get very introspective.So what did
that mean?
It means that just as i can get annoyed or
disturbed when i notice that aspect in someone
eles,i better reexamine my qulities and consider
making some changes.Even if i'm not willng to
make a drastic change.at lest i consider how i
might modify some of the things that i'am dong.
At times we meet someone new and feel
distant. disconnected,or disgusted,Althouth we
don't want to believe it,and it's not easy or
desirable to look further,it can be a great learning
lesson to figure out what part of the person is
being reflected in you.It's simply just another
way to create more self--awareness.
12月4日 *To Be Or Not To Be* [16]
"To be or not to be",Outsaid the Bible,these
xis words are the most famous in all the literture of
the world .They were spoken by Hamlet wehn he was
thinking aloud,and they are the most famous words
in Shakespeare because .Hamlet was speaking not
only for himself but also for every thing man and
woman.To be or not to be -- to live or not to live.
to live richly and bundantly and eagerly.or to live
dully and merely and scarcely.A philosopher once
wanted to know whether he was alive or not ,which
is occasionally,He answered it by saying ,"i think ,there
fore i am."
But the best defination of existence i ever saw was
to be in ralation,"if this is true ,then the more relations
a living thing has,the more it is alive.To live abundantly
means simply to increase the range and intensity of
our raltions.Unfortunately we are so constituted that
we get to love our rutine.But apart form our regular
occupation how much are we alive?If you are interested
only in your regular occupation .you are alive you
only to that extent.So far as other things are concered
poetry and prose music pictures,sports unselfish friend
ship,politics,international affairs---you are dead.
Contrariwise,it is ture that every time you acquire
a new interest -- even more,a new accomplishment --
you increas your power of life.No one who is deeply
interested a large varity of subjects can remain unhappy
the real pessimist is the person who has lost interest.
Bacon said that a man dies as often as he lose
a frends,But we gain new life by contacts ,a new friends
What is supremly true of living objects is no less true
of ideas,Which are also alive,Where your thoughts are.
there will your life be also.If your thoughts are conflicts
only to your business ,only to your physical welare ,only
to the narrow circle of town in which you live,then you
live in a narrow circumscribed life.But if you are interested
in what is going on in china,then you are living in chia;if
you are interested in the characters of a good novel ,then
you are living with those highly interesting people; if you
listen intently to fine music,you are away from your imme
-diate surroundings and living in a worl of passion and
imagination.
TO be or not to be --- to live intensly and richly.or
merely to exist,that depends on ourvelves ,Let's widen
and intensify our relations ,while we live,let us live!
12月3日 *Clear your mental space* [14]
Think about the last time you felt a neagtive
emtion -like a stress,anger ,or frustration.What was
going though your mind as you were going through
that negativity?Was your mind cluttered with
thougths?Or was it paralyzed,unable to think?
The next time you find yourself in the middle
of a very stressful ,or a very anger or frustrated.
stop,Yes,that's right ,stop.whatever you're doing,
stop and sit for one minute .While your're sitting
there,completely immerse yourself in the negative
emotion.
Allow that emtion to consume you,Allow
yourself one minute to truly feel that emotion.
Don't cheat yourself here.Take your entier minute
-but only one minute - to do nothing else but
feel that emotion.
When the minute is over,ask yourself ."
Am i willing to keep holding on to this negative
emotion as i go through the rest of the day?"
Once you've allowed yourself to be
totally immersed in the emotion and really feel
it,you will be surprised to find that the emtion
clears rather quickly.
If you feel you need to hold on to the
emotion for a litter longer,that is OK.Allow you
rself another minute to feel the emotion.
When you feel you've had enough of the
emotion ask yourself if you're willing to carry the
negativity with you for the rest of the day.If not,
take a deep breath,as the eshale ,release all the
negativity with your breath.
This exercise seems simple --- almost too simple
But,it is very effective.By allowing that negative emotion
the space to be truly felt.you are dealing with the
emotion rather than stuffing it down and trying not
to feel it. you are actually taking away the power of
the emotion by giving it the space and attention it
needs. When you immerse yourself in the emotion
and realize that only the emotion,it loes its contorl.
you can clear your head and proceed with you task.
Try it,Next time you're in the middle of a negative
emotion ,give yourself the space to feel the emotion
and see what happens .keep a piece of paper with
you that says the following;
Stop,Immerse for one minute .Do i want to keep
this negativity? Breath deep, exhale ,release ,move on!
This will remaind you of the steps to the process.
Remember:take the time you need to really immerse
yourself in the emotion.Then,when you feel you've
felt it enough .release it.--- really let go of it.you
will be surpirsed at how quickly you can move on
from a negative situation and get to what you really
want to do!
12月2日 *Abundance is a life style* 13
Abundance is a life style,is a way of living your
life.it isn't something you buy now and then or
pull down from the cupboard ,dust off and use
once or twice ,and then return to the cupboard.
Abundance is a philosophy:it appears in your
physiology,your value system,and carries its own
set of beliefs.you walk with it,sleep with it,bath
with it,feel with it ,and need to maintain and take
care of it as well.
Abundance doesn't always require money,Many
people live with all the money can buy,yet live empty
inside.Abundance being inside with some main self-
ingredients,like love,care,kindness and gentlness,
thoughtfulness and compassion.Abundance is a state
of being,It radiates outward.It shines like the sun
among the many moons in the wrold.
Abundance from the brightness of abundance
doesn't allow the darkness to appear or be in the
path unless a choice to allow it.the ture state of
abundance doesn't have room for lies or games nor-
mally played.the space is too full of abundance.This
may be achallenge because we still need to shine
for others to see.
Abundance is seeing people for their gifts and
what they lack or could be,Seeing all things for their
gifts and not what they lack.
Start by knowing what your abundances are,
fill that space with you,and be fully present from that
state of being.your profession of choice is telling you
this alread.Examples:coaches have an abundance of
knowing or possibilities.that is their gift.Consultants
and customer servce professionals have an abundance
of success ,praticality,in common.Administrative assistant
and virtual assistants have an abundance of coordination
and the time management.Abundance is all around you,
and all within,see what it is:love youselves for what
it is,not what you're missing,or what can be better
but for what it is at this present monment.
Be in a state of abundance of what you already
have.I guarantee they are there:it always is buried
breath them it as if they are the air you breath ,because
they are yours.Let go of anything that isn't abundance
for the time being.Name the shoe boxes in your closet
with your gifts of abundance;pull from them every
morning if needed .know they are there.
Learning to trust your own abundance is requierd
when you begin to be within your own speace of abundance
whatever you need will appear whenever you need it.
That's just the way the higher powers set this universe
up to work:Tust the universal energy. the knowing
of it all will humble you to its power yet let the
brightness of you shine everywhere it needs to.Just
by being from a state of abundance,it is being you.
*Faceing the Enemies within* 12 We are not bron with in the courage,but neither are we are with fear.maybe some of our fears are brougt on by your won expreince ,by what somenoe has told you.by what you've read in the papers.some fears are valid.like walking along in the bad part in a town at two a o'clok in the morning.But once you learn to avoid that situation ,you won't need to live of in a fear of it. FEARS,even the most basic ones,can totally destroy our ambitions.FEAR,can destroy fortunes FEAR,can destroy relationship.FEAR, if left uncheaked, can destroy our lives.FEAR,is one of the many enemies lurking inside us.
Let me tell you about five of other enemies
we face from within,the first enemy that you've
got to destroy before destoys you is indifference.
what a tragic disease this is !ho-hom,let is slid.
i'll just drift along.here is one problem with drfting
:"you never drift you way to the top of the mountain.
The second enemy we face is INDECISION,
indesion is the thief of oppurtunity and entrpries.
it will steal your chances for a better futures.Take
a sword to this enemy.
The third enemy inside is DOUBT.sure,there
is a room for health skepticism.you've can't believe
everything.But you also can't doubt take over.Many
people doubt the past,doubt the future ,doubt the
possibilities and doubt the opportunities.Wose of all,
they doubt themselves.i am telling you.doubt will
destory your life and you chances of success.it will
empty both your bank acount and your heart.Doudt
is an enemy.Go after it,Get of it.
The fourth enemy within is worry.We've all got
to worry some.Just don't let it conquer you.instead,
let it alarm you.worry can be usefull.If you step off
the curb in New york city and a taxi is coming ,you
've got to worry .but you can't let worry loose like
a mad dog that drives you into a small conrer.Here's
what you've go to with your worries:drives them into
small corner.Whatever is out to get you,you've got
to get it.Whater is pushing on you,you 've got to
push back.
The fifth interior enemy is overcuation,It
is the timid apprach to life.timidity is not a virtue; it's
an illness.If you let it go,it'll conquer you.Timid people
don't get promoted,They don't advance and grow
and become powerful in the marktplace.You've
got to avoid overcaution.
Do battle with the enemy,do battle with your
fears.build your courage to fight what's holding you
back,what's keeping you from your gloas and dreams.
courageous in your life and in your pursuit of the things.
you want and the person you want to become .
12月1日 *what is your recovery rate?*
[eleven] What is your recovery rate? how long does it take your to recover from actions and behaviors that upset you.Minutes? Hours? Days?Weeks?The longer it takes you to recover .the more inflence that incident has on your actions.and the less able you are to perfrom to your pesenal best.In a nutshell, the long it thakes you to recover ,you are weaker and the poorer your performance. You are a well aware that you need to exercise to keep you body fit and ,no doubt accept that a resonable measure of health is in speed in which your heart and respriatory system recovers after exercise.Likewise the faster let go of an issue that upset you.the faster you return to your an equilibrium,the healther you well be.The best example of this behavior is found with perfessional sptos people.they know that the faster they can forget an incident or missde opportunity and get on with the game.the better their prefromance In fact,most measure the time it takes them to overcome and forget an incident in a game and must reckon a recovery rate of 30 seconds is too long. Imagine youself to be an actor in a play on the stage. Your aim si to play your part to the best of your ability.you have been given a script and at an end each setence is to full stop.Each time you get to the next sentence is related to it is not effected by it.Your job is deliver each sentence to the best of your ability. Don't live your life in the past!Learn to live in the present,to overcome the past.Stop the past from influnencing your daily life Don't allow thoughts of the past to reduce presonal best.Stop the past from the interfering with your life .Learn to recover quickly. Remember:Rome wasn't build in a day. Reflect on your recovery rate each day. Every day before you go to bed.look at your progress. Don't lie in bed saying:"i did that worry"."i should have done bette there.""No,look at your day and note when you made an effort to place a full stop after an incident.This is a success.You are taking contorl of your life .Remember:this is a step by step process.This is not a make-over.You are undertaking real change here.Your aim:reduce the time spent in recovery. The way forward? Live in the present. Not in the precedent.
11月30日 *Youth* Yoth is not time of life,it is state of
the mind,it is not matter of the rosy
cheeks ,red lips and supple knees.it is
a matter of the will, a quiltiy of the
imagination ,a vigor of the emtions.It is
the freshness of the deeply springs of life.
Yoth means is tempremental predomince
of courge over timidied, of the appetited
adventure overd the love of ease.This often
exists in a man of 60 more than a boy of 20.
Nobady grows old merely by a number
of years,we grow old by derseing our
ideals.
Years may wrinkle the skin,but to give
up to the enthsiasm wrikles the soul,
fear, worry ,self-distrust,bows the heart
and turns the spirit back to dust.
Wherther the 60 or 16 ,in human being's
the lure and wonder ,the unfailing appetite
for what's next or the joy of the game of living
.In the center of your heart and my heart
there is wireless station;so long as it received
message of hope ,cheer, beauty,courage
and power from man and from the Infinite .
so long are you young.
When the aerials are down,your spirit is
covered with snows of cynicsm,and the ice
of pessimism.then you are grown old ,even
at 20;but as long as your aerials are up,to
catch waves of optimism,there is hope you
may die yang at 80.
6月30日 ＄我是窗户帘＄我的心态还不是很稳定总是在变呢还！一会感觉自己很开心一会感觉自己又不是很想这样了．于是，看见窗帘就感觉和自己和它一样就是翻来复去我感觉是女人这样还是就是这个年龄的人这样？还是只有我一个人是这样的呢！真的是很郁闷呀～我感觉，感觉感觉看来我是一个极为相信感觉的人因为我总是会有感觉．6月29日 ＆我是幸福的小天使＆ 在家睡上一天的觉醒来发现还有些事情没有处理完呢！我的笔记本还少些软件要加，正想着呢，我的受机就响了．熟悉的声音传过来原来是我好朋友问我还要不要给电脑装东西，我两天前告诉他今天来给我装我的电脑．原来记得比我还清楚呢！可以，中午吧～
睡醒了之后在洗个澡就可以了在来我家就好了～
中午最好吃些什么有西瓜就好了，冰箱里还有可是我爷爷买的西瓜永远都是不甜也不水，我妹妹说吃着就向在吃棉花呢～
来我们家给我装电脑也可以自带西瓜，和冷饮．于是我朋友就到我家给我带来了一个大西瓜，他装电脑我吃西瓜．
电脑装好了，西瓜我也吃不动了～我就感觉特想在躺床上睡一会呢～
我就把我朋友送出门，发现桃子很好也很鲜于是就想买几个，由于我穿的是裙子也没有兜就只好再次打劫他，要了十元钱买了二斤桃儿．
才花三元于是就又把剩下的七元还回去了．
我怎么是这样的人，不过还是能有这样的好朋友包容我呵呵～
真的是很幸福的事情，没过多久大姑打电话来说晚上回来吃饭因为电影院有一场承德的紫塞明珠文化的文艺演出．
于是，家里的人就陆陆续续的回来了，每一个人都问家里需要什么，每天都会买吃的东西每天都会买菜．，但又能吃多少呢！
冰箱的东西真的是很多的，家里什么也不缺～
一大桌子的饭菜，吃完饭就刚好开演，大家都感觉这次的文艺演出还真的不错，虽然没有我在保利剧院，人民大会堂看的好！
但，这次的演出很出呼我的以外呢！没想到承德这样的一个小山沟能演出两个小时的文艺演出，很紧凑也很鲜亮，大家真的刮目相看，
就向你到了九寨沟，漓江，要看的当地特色一样．我们也有我们的文化特色．～
我的相机也修好了，我同学帮我找人修的．多少钱也不说我很生气说了很多气话可是他还是 不告诉我多少钱
我知道我不应该生气因为他也是为我好，给我修好了又不要钱，只有我会这样吗？？
是不是我比别人笨所以上帝眷顾我给我安排很多爱我的人，在我的身边呵护着我呢？～～
我总感觉我是很幸福的人～～希望时间可以主足在这一刻！ 3月15日 我很感激现在所有的一切！ |
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